How can you make a difference when the person has both short and long term interest? It's impossible. Anyway I'm sure I generally would have looked like "long" to you; this was partly a true signal because I was quite interested in long-term relationships, and partly false as I was also quite interested in short-term.
How can you make a difference when the person has both short and long term interest? It's impossible. Anyway I'm sure I generally would have looked like "long" to you; this was partly a true signal because I was quite interested in long-term relationships, and partly false as I was also quite interested in short-term.
I'd say my wife successfully signalled long term interest without short term interest: clean, well-groomed, long hair brushed out, no makeup or cleavage, but occasionally bare thighs. Bright-eyed, friendly when approached, conversationally engaged.
OK, but how would this look: long skirts, no low cleavage, no visible makeup, but clothing fitted nicely to the waist, showing a feminine form. Long or short? The correct answer, at least in some cases, would be "both".
Alright, I must grant you that, it does have some signal value, but it's not so strong that a man could reliably know what that woman dreams of. I even suspect that many of the heals-and-cleavage girls frequenting night clubs are actually hoping to attract long term spouses there (from what I've heard some of them say). They are either uninformed and take time to figure out that this is not a way to do it, or perhaps this is how women are supposed to look in their social circles and they actually do find their husbands eventually, from among the nightclub-going men?
As to that, I don't really know what they're thinking; they certainly had no hope of attracting my attention... though in all fairness they weren't really looking for me. I never attended night clubs, and regretted every party I ever went to. My own strategy was to major in a hard science and find intelligent women in college. It worked very well for me, but I wouldn't recommend it for most people, as there are far more men than eligible women who enroll in differential equations!
How can you make a difference when the person has both short and long term interest? It's impossible. Anyway I'm sure I generally would have looked like "long" to you; this was partly a true signal because I was quite interested in long-term relationships, and partly false as I was also quite interested in short-term.
I'd say my wife successfully signalled long term interest without short term interest: clean, well-groomed, long hair brushed out, no makeup or cleavage, but occasionally bare thighs. Bright-eyed, friendly when approached, conversationally engaged.
OK, but how would this look: long skirts, no low cleavage, no visible makeup, but clothing fitted nicely to the waist, showing a feminine form. Long or short? The correct answer, at least in some cases, would be "both".
Fine, but wouldn't that suggest long-but-not-short more often than shirt skirts, cleavage, makeup, and heels?
Alright, I must grant you that, it does have some signal value, but it's not so strong that a man could reliably know what that woman dreams of. I even suspect that many of the heals-and-cleavage girls frequenting night clubs are actually hoping to attract long term spouses there (from what I've heard some of them say). They are either uninformed and take time to figure out that this is not a way to do it, or perhaps this is how women are supposed to look in their social circles and they actually do find their husbands eventually, from among the nightclub-going men?
As to that, I don't really know what they're thinking; they certainly had no hope of attracting my attention... though in all fairness they weren't really looking for me. I never attended night clubs, and regretted every party I ever went to. My own strategy was to major in a hard science and find intelligent women in college. It worked very well for me, but I wouldn't recommend it for most people, as there are far more men than eligible women who enroll in differential equations!