The challenge is that in the case of sex, most people, especially women, don't really want clarity. They want a bit of ambiguity, excitement, the thrill of seduction. Being totally upfront about your intentions will be a turnoff for most people and get you shut down fast, making the whole process bewildering and hard to navigate for thos…
The challenge is that in the case of sex, most people, especially women, don't really want clarity. They want a bit of ambiguity, excitement, the thrill of seduction. Being totally upfront about your intentions will be a turnoff for most people and get you shut down fast, making the whole process bewildering and hard to navigate for those with autistic tendencies.
This scene from "A Beautiful Mind" comes to mind ;)
That's more than zero, and that's the point. Why wouldn't a given guy want to be *that* guy? Who wants to be a sucker? Without patriarchy, there is only chaos. Freedom ain't free hoss
>>The challenge is that in the case of sex, most people, especially women, don't really want clarity. They want a bit of ambiguity, excitement, the thrill of seduction.
Yup. And that's the reason why things are the way they are: Not only many men, but also many women like it that way.
Still, I think that a not insignificant minority of women have done what I have done, and consciously opted out of hook-ups. Many women have one or two or three hook-ups and then conclude that it wasn't a great concept. Basically, if a big share of women had one hook-up after another and liked it, the average number of sexual partners among heterosexuals would be much more than the 5-10 that studies tend to indicate.
I don't believe those women want to have explicit, autistic-friendly discussions on how to have sex. I just think they are not thrilled by hook-up culture and would like more than a drink or two and some entertaining conversation before they have sex.
The challenge is that in the case of sex, most people, especially women, don't really want clarity. They want a bit of ambiguity, excitement, the thrill of seduction. Being totally upfront about your intentions will be a turnoff for most people and get you shut down fast, making the whole process bewildering and hard to navigate for those with autistic tendencies.
This scene from "A Beautiful Mind" comes to mind ;)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-tC1FZQlJyM
>one or two or three
That's more than zero, and that's the point. Why wouldn't a given guy want to be *that* guy? Who wants to be a sucker? Without patriarchy, there is only chaos. Freedom ain't free hoss
>>The challenge is that in the case of sex, most people, especially women, don't really want clarity. They want a bit of ambiguity, excitement, the thrill of seduction.
Yup. And that's the reason why things are the way they are: Not only many men, but also many women like it that way.
Still, I think that a not insignificant minority of women have done what I have done, and consciously opted out of hook-ups. Many women have one or two or three hook-ups and then conclude that it wasn't a great concept. Basically, if a big share of women had one hook-up after another and liked it, the average number of sexual partners among heterosexuals would be much more than the 5-10 that studies tend to indicate.
I don't believe those women want to have explicit, autistic-friendly discussions on how to have sex. I just think they are not thrilled by hook-up culture and would like more than a drink or two and some entertaining conversation before they have sex.