Tove K on Wood From Eden

[Tove K]

I think there lies a lot in this. Also, society encourages parents to put more or less all cognitive effort they have into their children. Children are often described as demanding to the degree that parents should have little attention left for anything else.

I guess there are countless relationships where the female party first was a good girlfriend/wife for a number of years and spent most of her attention on being girlfriend/wife. When kids finally arrive, she changes identity to good mother. And then there is not much relationship left.