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Very important concept!

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Agency and direction are definitely two pieces of the puzzle, for me anyway. My lowest points are when I find myself torn between lots of directions, and not being able to decide; or, when I have a plan, to have it constantly frustrated by obligations and interference outside my control.

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I agree. And not only in overall life, but also in limited tasks. For example when I am building on our house, I become inefficient and in a bad mood if I don't know exactly what I am supposed to do and in what order. The feeling that "what I am doing right now is the right thing to do right now" is important on so many levels.

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Relatable, from personal experience and observation of others who are ‘stuck’ doing what they don’t like. For me it’s agency, which means mostly not being a cog in someone else’s machine.

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Yes, I also think that agency is they key. Most situations are bearable if there is just something that one can do about them. Basically, I think depression occurs when people don't know what to do in order to improve their situation.

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Having had some pretty bad times in the past I concluded that was it, along with also having sufficiently clear vision around what you want. A surprising theme among our fellow humans is the vagueness of that. That vacuum gets filled with earning 'enough' money and taking the occasional holiday, which now seems like hell to me. I enjoyed your piece a lot btw.

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I think you're right. People don't know what they want and since they are social creatures, they want what the others want. That means that almost everyone competes for the same stuff and everyone who is not very good at it gets stressed.

Thank you for the kind words, btw. I appreciate them at lot.

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Our modern society is quite the mismatch. Now, most of our time is spent on screens. Very odd. I'm glad you found happiness in a more traditional lifestyle.

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Thank you! (But I spend quite a lot of time in front of my beloved screen too.)

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Don’t we all

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Hopefully!

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