>>Naive young women want more children but after having their first they get really worried and want less; or anxious women just don't want that many at all from the get go and now that they are free to choose they limit the amount; or women being worried about not providing enough and postpone getting children and maybe never having the…
>>Naive young women want more children but after having their first they get really worried and want less; or anxious women just don't want that many at all from the get go and now that they are free to choose they limit the amount; or women being worried about not providing enough and postpone getting children and maybe never having them?
All the three of them! There are women for everything. Except the first, maybe. Naivety in front of relationships and family life is not really fashionable these days.
In general, I think that people replace children with dogs and cats. Young people who form couples are not suppose to cement their alliance through having a child. Instead, they buy a dog or a cat. That way, they can get an outlet for their caring instincts, without having to take on the astronomical load of responsibility and worrying that is expected from parents. After having cared together for an animal for x years, people then feel ready to have a real human child.
I've begun to think it's not the cause, but often a consequence - like porn use. It mitigates the unhappiness that results from not being able to have the real experience.
>>Naive young women want more children but after having their first they get really worried and want less; or anxious women just don't want that many at all from the get go and now that they are free to choose they limit the amount; or women being worried about not providing enough and postpone getting children and maybe never having them?
All the three of them! There are women for everything. Except the first, maybe. Naivety in front of relationships and family life is not really fashionable these days.
In general, I think that people replace children with dogs and cats. Young people who form couples are not suppose to cement their alliance through having a child. Instead, they buy a dog or a cat. That way, they can get an outlet for their caring instincts, without having to take on the astronomical load of responsibility and worrying that is expected from parents. After having cared together for an animal for x years, people then feel ready to have a real human child.
It would be quite funny if the main cause of the global fertility decline of the past 50 years is cute dogs!
I've begun to think it's not the cause, but often a consequence - like porn use. It mitigates the unhappiness that results from not being able to have the real experience.
Well, cute hedgehogs probably deserve some of the blame too:
https://putanumonit.com/2017/03/12/goddess-spreadsheet/