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Brandy's avatar

As someone who still adheres to the traditional gender roles and conservative marriage and family ideals, I can only speak for what I am seeing with my son who is in his mid 20s. He is a college graduate with 2 Master's degrees, but he has had two problems. 1. Social media means no one socializes in person. It is difficult to make a choice about someone based solely on their looks. Do you remember being that teen surrounded by girls who maybe weren't the cutest at first, but their personality made them more beautiful? In person interaction is so important. 2. The girls that do surround him are so far left and so immature socially, they aren't likeable. These girls are constantly belittling and preaching what is and isn't acceptable, it makes for an uncomfortable relationship. Social media taught them this behavior. As for what I personally believe, I think we've allowed society to tell these young girls that hundreds or thousands of years of being a wife, a mom, a homemaker wasn't enough. I believe most (not all) are hardwired genetically to be fulfilled by these roles, so now that we've shamed it out of existence, the lower achievers don't feel good about being okay with that role and claiming it.

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Freddie deBoer's avatar

"The custom of forming high-investing, stable romantic couples is increasingly being lost. Especially among liberal people."

I'm sorry but this is just flatly wrong. No one is forming more stable marriages and families than high-status liberals.

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