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Hyolobrika's avatar

You'd rather not know that your baby is about to die than get a false alarm? Why?

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My eldest had colic. The valve between his stomach and his esophagus didn't close properly, so his meals tended reflux into his throat. He rarely threw up completely--the food didn't get that far. But his esophagus was burnt raw by stomach acid and every time he burped (or hiccupped) he wailed.

The stomach closes more completely when babies are on their stomachs than on their backs. Mine simply couldn't sleep on his back. Within ten minutes of falling asleep, he would reflux and begin screaming. Every. Time. Even on his stomach he was touchy. He ended up on anti-heartburn medication, I had to hold him upright in my arms for his first half hour of sleep so that any burps could escape with a minimum of accompanying stomach contents, and then I put him down on his tummy.

Have you looked into the SIDS-pacifier study? There's a major flaw in the way that one's presented. People proclaim it (including the nurses at the hospital after I had my second baby) as "babies with pacifiers die of SIDS less than babies without." But the study actually found that SIDS was more common in babies who NORMALLY HAD pacifiers, but had been put down that evening without them. Which is a whoooole different kettle of fish. The study speculated that the pacifiers caused changes in the shape of the baby's airways (complete with MRIs of said babies for evidence) and that the airways were dependent on the presence of the pacifiers to keep functioning properly.

The recommendation that all babies should be given pacifiers based on this study is... somewhat horrifying.

Anyway, I still remember that nurse trying to get me to give my second newborn a pacifier because of said study. I replied that I had *actually read the study* and that was *not* what the study found.

Pacifiers aside, I've noticed a definite trend where whatever it takes to be a "good parent" involves either personal suffering or money. For example, breast feeding. Ok, maybe breast is best most of the time... but it's also undeniable that moms with enough money to stay at home for an extended time are going to breastfeed for longer. (In retrospect, my eldest probably would have benefitted from bottle-feeding due to his extreme feeding problems, but I was trying so very hard to do everything "right" for him.)

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